Hi there,? I have updated my wonderful Steals and Deals from yesterday to reflect what is still available, still a few goodies to be had. If you missed it click here.? It’s time for our monthly By Invitation Only posts. This months theme was to post 5 things that we wish we could change. I had to show tremendous restraint to not rant and go on and on, because my list could easily contain 20 things I would love to see changed but here are my top five. You may or may not agree with me, this is just a personal narrative as the intention is for each of us to express what really bothers us, and all five of these are big ones for me. It was almost therapeutic to be able to “talk” about them here…..as they are things unfortunately that are a part of our lives today and there is no escaping it.? Would love to know if any or maybe even all of these would make your top five? Here we go…….. 1. RUDENESS AND LACK OF COMMON COURTESY. Few things make me cringe as much as obnoxious, rude, arrogant, narcissistic people. Seeing someone talking down to someone because they feel they are more or higher than makes my skin crawl. Seeing someone bark orders to a waiter makes me mad! Watching someone berate their own kid on a sports field or otherwise publicly makes me sad. Watching someone demean their spouse or someone “they love” to make themselves feel better outrages me. Watching a man rudely walk in front? of a woman just so he can pass through a door and not hold it for her annoys me to no end, sometimes I feel chivalry is almost dead. Maybe I am more sensitive to this because both my father and husband are true gentleman in every sense of the word, by far one of their most admirable traits:) What’s wrong here? To me, I see men sitting who should have been chivalrous enough to offer this obviously pregnant woman a seat…at least offer!! All of this boils down to one thing…..rudeness and a lack of empathy. WE NEED MORE OF IT!? It takes as much and possibly less energy to be kind, nice to someone, to extend a compliment ( we all know the feeling of being complimented, the best feeling on earth, right)? So this is my first thing for sure! 2. NO SEAT BELTS ON SCHOOL BUSES. Wait a minute, we can get stopped and ticketed for not wearing one in a car but an entire bus of young unruly rowdy children bouncing around a rickety school bus with not a seat belt in sight is OK????? What am I missing here people??? Seriously how did this happen!!! It defies any logic! So let me get this straight, a 5 year old in your back seat who is likely to for the most part sit there and mind his own business MUST wear his seat belt because its the law? as opposed to TWENTY FIVE? 5 year olds on a bus not only not having a seat belt to wear but being able to stand up and often change seats when they are so inclined with nary a word much less getting a ticket? I mean where is the logic PLEASE help me out here. 3. THE DUMBING DOWN OF AMERICA. Oh this one gets to me real baaaaaaad. I mean all joking aside have you seen whats on TV? I am F L O O R E D.While sick in bed for a few days, I got the “pleasure” of many hours of TV viewing and my mouth was on the floor with what is being shown. And if my kids were young, seriously I might consider not even owning a TV. Ever. Never has it been so depressing. Never has it been so acceptable to televise absolute garbage. I mean the likes of Honey Boo Boo,Mafia Wives, Toddlers and Tiaras, The Amish Mafia and such make Jersey Shore look as wholesome as Mr. Rogers!! What are our young impressionable kids supposed to think when they see this, when this type of behavior is glorified and shoved down their throats? That its OK, acceptable and dare I say even “cool” to be this way, behave this way. I say its a sad day for America when this is what you see. I am sorry but it appalls and saddens me. 4. IGNORANCE. This could almost be lumped with my number one, rudeness. But ignorance deserves its own special little category. I witnessed something the other day that really really upset me. It was a man of a certain ethnicity making another person (who worked in a store) of another ethnicity? feel like he was “less than”, clearly this man thought he was superior to this other person and the degree of ignorance he showed was appalling. I witnessed it and he was all but verbally abusing him. It really made me sad to witness, so? I promptly? reported him to the manager without a seconds thought. Yes, I am like a neighborhood vigilante, I report things that make do not seem just or in this case absolutely wrong. He was so out of line and sadly this is not the first time it has happened. I have seen other prejudices where others who don’t fit in that perfect little box of what some think of as “normal” are treated poorly.? People are quick to judge and not afraid to speak their minds….but I try to always remember a saying that I preach often, “assume that everyone is fighting a battle, some big and some small but everyone is fighting something”. I truly believe that and if everyone subscribed to that mantra, perhaps our world would be a bit kinder. 4.INSTANT GRATIFICATION. This is a big one for me! I will be the first to say it……..never thought I would be complaining about getting something too soon. I mean is there such a thing? Well, yes there is. You see, I miss the old days when we wanted to see a new movie that just came out on DVD we had to drive to Blockbuster and actually get out of our car and walk in and scroll the aisles, I remember it fondly as it was a family affair…the kids would scatter to the kids section and my husband and I would battle over the latest action flick vs. a period film I couldn’t wait to see (of course we got both). Then of course there was the candy and popcorn aisle. Don’t even get me started they always had deals that enticed us to walk away with way too much “good stuff” then we came home and it was like a whole ritual……make the popcorn, pop the DVD in and enjoy. Now…..you don’t even have to leave your bed and with the flick of a button on your remote you have thousands of movies at your fingertips. Ditto books…..I could cry when I think back to my favorite ritual about escaping to Borders, always settling in with a cup of coffee or cappuccino (and yes the prerequisite sweet) and would spend hours looking at books, magazines, it literally felt like a mental getaway. Now with all the e books a book and even magazines just a touch of a button away, you don’t even have to leave your house to read virtually anything. It goes on….the way kids know what every single girl is wearing to prom because there are Facebook pages set up for it well before the big night begins, no more surprises and heck, isn’t that part of the magic of prom night? How about for those who love to work, well thanks to technology, they can bring their office with them. They can be in constant contact, Skype, video chat, whatever needs to be done. So much for taking a break from the office to go on vacation:( 15 years ago when you went on vacation, you were unreachable and anything that required your attention just had to wait until you returned. And guess what……..? the office was still standing when you returned from your V A C A T I O N:) How about when you went on vacation, you WENT ON VACATION. As in you were not reachable, period. And when you came home you couldn’t wait to share the highlights with your friends and family and? waited in baited breath? to get those pictures developed at your local CVS or photo store, and excitedly anticipated getting to see and share them. Now…..you are texting your inner circle on the hour while? on vacation, they? know your every move through Instagram and Twitter, your every meal is documented and photographed, your friends and family are all but eating there with you!? And those vacation pictures? They? are all photo shopped and put in an online album well before your flight home even touches the tarmac.? Yes, it’s like everyone you know and love was right there with you, going on a trip is now rather anti climatic. Why did we even go on vacation? I mean I love them and all but still a vacation should be just that…..a? total getaway from everything and everyone. Good for the mind, body and soul. This should be posted at every airport as a friendly reminder that you are on vacation…….. So……as you can see I have some definite opinions here, ones I feel strongly about. I always say to those who know me well I was so born in the wrong era. If I could click my heels and go back in time I could happily ditch all my tech gadgets and do it!? Does this resonate at all with you? I am an age where I got to see both sides of this coin and I will stand here and tell you I would in a heartbeat go back to the simpler times when technology did not rule our every thought and movement. Things are moving too fast too soon. I am afraid of all this instant gratification and the ramifications it might have on the next generation. They don’t know what it is to wait and anticipate something. That journey is so much a part of the process and makes the reward so much sweeter in my estimation. I know we are unlikely to regress and go back but boy, if we could I would be one happy girl. Thanks as always for stopping in and hearing what I have to say. Curious what your five things might be? Any of the above? Love to hear from my readers so feel free to chime in and tell me your thoughts on the matter. Wishing everyone a wonderful day…sun is shining here, skies are blue so it’s all good:) If you would like to see what the other bloggers? in the group, By Invitation Only had to say on the matter, click here to Marsha over at Splenderosa? where you can see all that have participated.